Many people are aware of the need for change in their lives. However, everything new often scares us. How to force yourself to move forward when you’re scared, “it’s not time yet,” “I have many responsibilities,” “I’m not good at anything,” “I’m not ready yet,” etc.
“Burn the ships!” , “Burn the bridges!”
It was the first command the warriors heard when they landed on enemy soil. Here is a prime example of reverse motivation that works! And how do you think a warrior, for whom retreat and defeat no longer exist, should fight? He will fight as he has never fought before. After all, win or die is the condition for the birth of incredibly strong motivation.
Of course, such a radical method is not always applicable. Sometimes we do have many responsibilities that bind our will. In that case, there is a milder method, using 10 strategies below.
10 strategies to help you move forward when you’re stumped
1. Take a step back
It sounds crazy, but think about it: if you cannot solve a problem at the level of knowledge and experience at which you created it, then you must step back and take another look at it from another perspective.
Often, in trying to solve a problem, we rule out analyzing it. We naively believe that by doing our best, by putting in even more effort and effort, we will get through the situation. But it doesn’t work that way. Before you recklessly waste your resources, think about where you are and what got you to this point. When you take a step back, you get a completely different perspective on familiar things.
2. Stop using tools that don’t work
When you get stuck in one place, you have two choices: continue doing the same thing as before, thereby only increasing wasted effort and time, or get rid of the excess by trying new ways to solve your problems.
When we find ourselves in a dead end, we most often act on the first option, continuing to do things that are clearly not working, in the hope that someday it will change. Old habits, limiting beliefs and other tools that just keep you in one place, which means you have to get it all out of your head. Don’t forget to also get rid of the emotional baggage that makes you slow down.
3. Don’t hesitate to ask for help
When we find ourselves at an impasse, any help, even the seemingly insignificant help, can help us out. It can be a conversation with a close friend who knows and understands you well, or seeking advice from someone who has already been in a similar situation, but was able to find a way out of it.
Don’t forget about other methods, such as talking to a psychologist, who can ask the right questions to help you see the situation from a different angle, or a counselor who can share an expert opinion and his or her experience.
4. Try to understand what happens
It’s very difficult to start moving forward if you haven’t fully understood what brought you to the dead end. You have to get specific about what you did wrong. Analyze all of your actions and decisions and track which ones caused you to get stuck in one place.
If you clearly articulate the problem itself, you’ll have an idea of a possible solution. For example, there’s a significant difference between the phrases “I feel like I’m at a dead end” and “I feel like I’m at a dead end because I’m too overworked.” Ask yourself the question, “What’s stopping me?” until you get to the real problem.
5. Take a “brain break”
The large amount of information often “clogs” our brain and does not allow it to work properly. It is no coincidence that in elementary schools teachers make children do “five minutes breaks” (when the whole class gets up and does exercises).
Of course, you’re not a schoolboy anymore, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need those moments of “shifting” attention anymore. If you give your brain time to rest, you can return to solving your problems with a fresh mind and new perspectives.
6. Answer yourself honestly: “Do you really want to change?”
Very often the feeling that you are at a dead end occurs when you lose faith. Or you lose sight of your goal. That’s why it’s important to answer leading questions honestly:
- Why did you do it?
- What did you expect from your actions?
- How do you envision your life/job/family in the future?
The answers that first come to your mind will help remind you of your original intentions and goals and give you the inner motivation to get back on the right track and keep moving forward.
7. Begin brainstorming
When you feel that you are at a dead end, you see no way out of the situation because you have no options. If you brainstorm and try to generate as many ideas as you can on how to change your current situation, you can see potential solutions to your problems. Thanks to this you will get rid of the feeling of hopelessness and will no longer feel trapped.
8. Do not sit still, waiting for everything to be resolved by itself
If you are at a dead end and all you do is sit idly by, stop waiting for a rescue out of nowhere or a sudden epiphany. The only one who can help you move one step forward is yourself. It’s up to you whether you continue to stand still or finally start moving toward your goal.
9. Make a step-by-step plan
Not just a “find a solution to the problem” or “solve the problem” type of plan – it’s unlikely to help you get off the ground. A plan should be a step-by-step plan where each action should be thought through from beginning to end, a deadline should be set for it, and variants of events should be envisaged if something does not go according to plan. Then you will be mentally prepared to deal with the circumstances and will not feel trapped.
10. Change your state of mind
Sometimes your emotional state is the cause of your “stalemate”. If you’re tired of stress and worry, feeling pressure from the outside, or having to do things that only weigh you down, start an operation to save yourself from a hostile environment immediately. Do things that can lift your spirits, take a little break from business, spend time with those you care about. And when your emotions are on the mend, you can begin to act in full force.