Being rejected by a lover, company, or friend is very unpleasant and somewhat humiliating for everyone without exception. However, some people treat rejection philosophically, while others experience it too long and painfully. Here are some tips to help you cope with this negative situation and continue to live as usual.
It happens to everyone
One thing you should understand is that whatever you are experiencing now, millions of people are experiencing with you. And those who have had it in the past number in the billions. That is, nothing is new, and each of us at least once in our lives has experienced disappointment, pain, a sense of hopelessness, has been angry and angry. Nevertheless, everyone has somehow endured it, and now it’s just your turn.
You should not take everything so personally, because it will not do any good. But there may be a lot of harm. So try to calm down, accept the rejection and come up with a new strategy.
Rejection does not mean that you are not worthy
There are many reasons why people don’t do the right thing. Take love, for example: how do you determine who is at fault here? It’s just that someone fell out of love, and that’s normal (that’s life).
You shouldn’t take everything as a personal insult. And if you didn’t get the coveted position in the company, it doesn’t mean that you’re not worthy of the position either. Maybe you just were not seen, or there were other circumstances of which you know nothing.
Do not blame yourself and deliberately lower self-esteem. Try to understand that today’s rejection – an opportunity to try something new. Surely everything turned out better than you think, you just do not know it yet.
You can find new motivation
Some people mistakenly believe that being rejected is the end of all plans and dreams. They give up, try to forget their previous plans, and prefer to do nothing at all.
Stopping fighting is the very last thing you should be thinking about. Perhaps today’s rejection will motivate you to change your strategy and tactics, to realize that there are other directions and open doors if these temporarily turned out to be locked.
Rejection teaches you how to react to difficulties
There is a very accurate expression that a negative result is also a result. That is, one should not belittle the positive impact of rejection.
Everyone understands that everything in life cannot be smooth. Every now and then problems arise that not only cause us unnecessary trouble, but also spoil our nerves. And these troubles harden our character, making it more resilient. Strong and even tough in some situations. If other obstacles come your way, you’ll be less sensitive to that pain.
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You need to stay positive
Getting rejected today was very painful, and this pain may be felt for several days. But then it will gradually bother you less and less. Until it subsides altogether. And a little later, remembering this episode, you will not react so emotionally. Or maybe you will even laugh at your current problems, because they seem to you quite insignificant.
Remember how upset you were in school when you got a bad grade. Today you can’t really call it pain. Just everything in its time, and rejection is a version of the solution to this or that problem. Believe that in the end everything will be all right.
Be positive and respond appropriately to rejection. If it’s not a disaster, don’t take it personally. Everything is for the best, and you will soon be able to see that, because only a thorny path can lead to success and prosperity.