Our negative attitudes and misperceptions about the world affect our behavior and also determine how our system of values is formed. Even more limiting beliefs become a filter of information. As a result, only the information that corresponds to the attitudes you’ve developed reaches your brain. That means your picture of the world is distorted.
Below we will tell you about the most important 5 things you need to learn to control, otherwise they will begin to control you and make you unhappy.
1. Regrets for the past
Don’t let your past control your REAL or FUTURE. Whatever happens, you must reconcile and “let go” of what happened in the past.
If you are haunted by memories and think the past was better, always remember the phrase of the famous philosopher Marcus Aurelius:
If the caterpillar held on to the past, it would never become a butterfly.
Your past is gone. Accept it as a fact. No matter what happened (whether it was unfair, cruel, harsh, in any case), reliving the events will never do you any good. If someone has done wrong for you, the ONLY WAY to win is to let go and move on. If you live in hate, they will win. If you live in a history of victimhood, they will win. If you want to win, you must focus on building your future and you must start now.
2. Other People’s Opinions and Judgments
Don’t let the opinions and judgments of others control the direction of your life. The need to “fit in” and feel needed can drive you down a path you don’t want to take.
Pleasing people is a curse that should be avoided at all costs. Before you do anything, ask yourself: am I doing it because I want to do it? Or, because of my fear of being judged by others if I don’t do it?
As the great Steve Jobs said:
Our lifetime is limited. So we shouldn’t waste it by living another life. It is not worth getting caught on the hook of a creed that exists on the thinking of others.
You were born to stand out, to be appreciated and loved for who you are. Don’t dim the lights to fit in with the dull background of other people’s lives. Live brightly, HOW YOU ARE, those who truly care about you will see that light and shine with you.
3. The limiting beliefs you project on yourself
Don’t let your beliefs rule your life! These may be unconscious limitations that you were “indoctrinated” from an early age or throughout your life when you listened to those around you who never pursued their dreams. Pay attention to your limiting beliefs and tell them to “shut up”.
You can have everything you want if you give up the belief that it is impossible.
There is NO ONE you can’t do, there is NO ONE you can’t become if you believe in yourself! If you believe that anything is possible, anything is POSSIBLE! When you change your faith from limited to limitless… Your potential is limitless!
Change your mindset now and when you decide to see everything as a Gift, you will make the decision by viewing all circumstances and challenges as a blessing, not a curse.
4. Treat relationships philosophically
This is a touchy subject. But if you always need the other person to be happy, to feel fulfilled, then you are always one moment away from disruption if that person leaves, or from unhappiness if the relationship doesn’t work out.
I’m not suggesting avoiding relationships. There is no greater power on this earth than LOVE. I am talking about those who cannot LIVE if they are not in a relationship.
Remember: a person can be happy in a relationship as well as alone. Therefore, you should not sacrifice yourself for a relationships.
5. The desire to become rich
Money is an important resource. It is what controls the lives of most people on the planet. But that doesn’t mean you have to think only about money, just like you have to sacrifice everything to get it.
You know as well as I do what great things you can do, and you know the people you can help with money. It means exactly that don’t let money control your decisions.
If you choose something ONLY on the basis of how much it costs, you have made the wrong decision. You will find that when you follow your heart and behave with the intention of helping others, of giving your best to others – EVERY time, when you follow your intuition and really GIVE from the heart – then the money will come, and there will be much more money than if you were just chasing money for money.
Just set yourself the goal of living the life you want to live. Find your freedom and live life to the fullest every single day.