How to go from “I can’t” conviction to active deeds?

How to go from “I can’t” conviction to active deeds?

How often do you find yourself getting excited about something new or doing something new and then being overwhelmed by thoughts such as “I can’t” or “I do not have time”?

And now the next opportunity is gone, and you continue to stomp around with the same knowledge, skills, relationships, or material income. Let me ask you: “Are you sure you’ve analyzed everything? Are you sure you really can’t?”.

As experience shows, convincing yourself of powerlessness is easier than making more effort. I suggest that you deal with your limiting beliefs with the three-step technique. By applying it, you’ll be able to see what’s keeping you from achieving what you want, and you’ll be motivated to act.

Step 1

Make a list of the things that limit you. Write at least three sentences each on a sheet of paper, beginning with the words “I can’t” and “I don’t have time”. For example:

  1. “I can’t get up early to go for a run”;
  2. “I can’t raise the price of my services because I’m afraid of losing clients”;
  3. “I can’t start a new relationship because I’m afraid of getting burned again”;
  4. “I don’t have time to learn a foreign language because I have a lot of work”;
  5. “I don’t have time to take self-development trainings because my family takes up all my free time”;
  6. “I don’t have time to do my hobbies because I have chores to do at home after work”.

And so on… Once you’ve finished that list, look at the list with the realization of the following thought:

“I can’t = I’m not going to do”.

Analyze any of your beliefs, and you will come to the conclusion that this is indeed true.

Any inaction rests on the belief that you are incapable of accomplishing anything. What’s the point of learning a foreign language if you don’t believe you can master it or don’t believe you could use it? To change this, proceed to the next step.

Step 2

A person can learn anything he wants. It doesn’t matter if he has talent or not, it’s just a matter of time and motivation. We often limit ourselves and our opportunities, not because we can’t do something, but because we don’t want to face new challenges.

So how can we fix it? First, you have to understand what limitations are holding you back in your endeavor. Let’s go back to the list you made earlier and replace “I can’t” and “I don’t have time” with “I’m not going to”. It will look something like this:

  1. “I’m not going to get up early…”;
  2. “I’m not going to raise the price of my services…”;
  3. “I’m not going to start a new relationship…”;
  4. “I’m not going to learn foreign language…”;
  5. “I’m not going to take new trainings…”
  6. “I’m not going to do my hobby…”

Reread the resulting phrases. How does that make you feel? Does this list feel more like the reality in which you live? Isn’t it kind of creepy?

If you feel discomfort, that’s good. Then you are really aware of your weak willpower or laziness and are ready to change yourself. It’s time for the next step.

Step 3

The next step is self-motivation. To do this, write another list on a new sheet of paper, asking each sentence from the previous one the question: “What reward will I get if I do this?”.

Based on the example of the previous questions, this list would look like this:

  1. “If I run in the morning, I will become thinner and improve my breathing, my heart, my endurance”;
  2. “If I raise the price of my services, I will lose some clients, but I will work more efficiently with the most perspective clients and earn more”;
  3. “If I start a new relationship, I might meet the love of my life”;
  4. “If I learn a foreign language I can read in it, watch videos in it, become smarter and maybe find a better-paying job or more clients abroad”;
  5. “If I start attending self-development trainings, I will become more productive, I will earn more with the same amount of work and time”;
  6. “If I learn a new hobby, I will develop my creativity, which will help me find new ideas to develop myself and my business”.

It’s great, isn’t it? When you make a list like this, you will see clearly what you are giving up. You’ll understand why it’s better to giving up the phrase “I can’t” (because this limiting belief has a negative impact on your health, comfort, income, relationships, and other areas of life).

Reprogram yourself. Teach your brain to always start analyzing new goals from perspectives, not from limitations. If another “I don’t have time” or “I can’t” pops into your mind, just ask yourself: “What will I lose?”. If it’s time, then of course it’s a valuable resource, but I think you’ll agree with me that it’s better spent free time on something useful than watching TV. If it’s money, it’s a renewable resource. And if the cost of achieving the goal is small, your efforts will pay off in most cases (whether you succeed or not).

When you encounter obstacles in your way, don’t give up! Better to ask yourself: “What reward will I get if I do take a chance and try?”. In this way you will train your brain to question every “I can’t” and begin to see the various possibilities and begin thinking in style: “I being able”.

After this self-reprogramming the perspectives you discover will certainly inspire you to take concrete actions. You’ll get better at spotting new ideas and opportunities around you. And when you come to understand that nothing is impossible in this life, then you will have a very strong motivation and desire to do something new.


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