8 bad habits that devalue you in the eyes of others

8 bad habits that devalue you in the eyes of others

Yes, it can happen that someone around us deliberately devalues us. This person may have different motives. Perhaps he wants to bend us to his will and use us for his own purposes. Maybe he envies our success and is waiting when we will finally give up our place to him. Or he simply has not achieved much himself, he is more comfortable when he sees only flaws in others.

Each such case has to be dealt with personally and to choose its own tactics.

In this material we also talk about those cases when a person devalues himself in the eyes of friends, colleagues, relatives or unfamiliar people. Most likely he does it unconsciously. But still the result is manifested: his achievements and actions are devalued, he is not always taken seriously, he looks weaker and not so smart against the background of others. This affects the level of income, career, social position, and simply the attitude of others to him.

The consequences of wrong behavior in society can seriously damage our reputation. Let’s take a closer look at the bad habits that devalue you in the eyes of others:

1. Apologize often and make excuses often

Of course, a strong and confident person will admit when he was wrong about something and apologize.

But that’s not what we’re talking about here. There are people who are constantly making excuses and apologizing. As if they are afraid of disturbing someone great with their presence.

But this strategy is detrimental to their position in society. Through this strategy of behavior (constant apologizing) we simply make it clear that we are not worthy to be on the same level as those around us. And with their constant excuses, they show that they are not sure of their words and actions.

2. Inability to accept compliments and gratitude

To any thanks or praise, they’ll mumble or say something along the lines of:

  • “Don’t thank me”;
  • “I’m not so pretty”;
  • “It wasn’t worth it”.

Then they are sure of it themselves. Accordingly, with this reaction, they show those around them how they should be perceived and treated.

3. Inappropriate bragging

This is the other side of the same coin – underestimation of self-esteem. In this case, a person actively praises himself out loud for the slightest of his words or actions:

  • “I’m the best”;
  • “That’s how I am”;
  • “Look what I can do! Now watch and learn”.

It gives the impression that he is not very sure of himself and is trying to nourish himself somehow with words. In small doses, positive affirmations and compliments to yourself are good. But when it’s too much, it’s very much like despair.

4. Offensiveness

Everyone can be insulted. And some people deliberately use it to piss people off. But the key difference between a person with high self-esteem and one with low self-esteem is HOW people respond to insults and offenses.

If you don’t like it, if it offends you, justify it, explain it, make it clear to the person you’re talking to. If a person’s actions don’t change and you can’t stand it at all, just minimize your communication with him or her.

But when a person constantly closes himself off, is eliminated, pouts his lips, then this demonstrates a certain infantilism, immaturity. It is difficult to treat such a person as an adult and equal.

5. Trying to conform to others

It is clear that we all live in society, we live by some rules and have to reckon with the rights of others.

But when a person constantly gives in, does not express his opinion, and constantly adjusts to the opinion of others, it certainly does not add to the respect of others.

6. Constant comparisons of oneself to others

There are examples when a person constantly asks people around him to confirm that he is in some way better, or at least not worse. There are attempts to inadvertently cut into the conversation and talk about one’s own merits.

This is typical childish behavior, it does not make up an established person.

7. Inability to assert personal boundaries

This includes excessive tolerance, a lack of understanding of one’s own boundaries and an inability or unwillingness to mark them to others.

Of course, you should not turn into a “prickly hedgehog” in society. But it is important to mark what can be done in relation to you and what not.

8. Transmitting negative attitudes

Constant whining, complaining, transmitting decadent attitudes will make you unwelcome in any society. People have enough problems of their own. An eternal whiner and pessimist is more likely to make them want to run away instead of feeling sorry for him.

Appreciate yourself, behave in a dignified and mature manner. Don’t devalue yourself, don’t make life difficult for yourself.

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