Our children are growing up, and we want to keep in touch with them and have a good relationship with them. Over time, this becomes more difficult. More often than not, it’s because parents don’t behave in the nicest way, so children try to reduce the amount of communication. Here I will give you few hints about how to achieve a good relationship with your adult children, and to improve it every day.
It’s worth realizing that the generation gap is now colossal, it’s bigger than ever before. This is an important thought. The point is that, for example, higher education is not so important anymore, it’s okay to work on the Internet, it’s okay to be single at thirty, too. And so on. Times are changing.
The main problem for many parents is that they give advice to their children based on their own time and experience. But things are different now, and, believe me, children are better informed about many things than you are. After all, they were born in this time, live in it, work in it, and grow up in it.
So if you’re over 50, you should give less advice from yourself and listen more to the advice of others. Listen to what is relevant in our world now. And not to insist that your child lives according to the molds that were relevant 20-30 years ago. It helps to maintain a good relationship with your children.
The second hint is that it’s important to be constantly interested in your children’s personal successes, to stimulate them, to encourage them. Unfortunately, many parents today either criticize their adult children or stand on the sidelines. And only a small number of parents are really interested in what their child is doing.
There are many kinds of things to be interested in. Perhaps your son (daughter) has found an interesting profession, hobby, new way to relax, new places and so on. If your children are passionate about sports, healthy eating, reading interesting blogs and books, these can all make for interesting conversations. And it doesn’t matter how far your child has come in his new undertakings – consider it all personal success, because your children will be very pleased that their parents are interested in it, try to get into it and understand. It is nice feeling when parents support.
Everyone likes to talk about their successes. And it’s especially nice to tell people close to you about it. After all, many people really want to get approval from their parents.