What to do if there is a constant feeling of fatigue? Where do we drain our energy that we’re always short of it? Who is to blame: ourselves or the world around us?
Our great-grandfathers watched over the farm and worked in the fields for 16-18 hours a day. Our great grandmothers could raise 5-10 children and raise a vegetable garden, cattle, poultry; they even had time to embroider towels in the evenings and nobody complained of burnout (like modern mothers with two children and a dishwasher at their side). What does all this mean? Did people of the past have more energy?
Yes, that’s right! Today, people are afflicted with an energy hunger.
Where does the energy in us come from? A non-trivial look
When I was an ardent materialist, I was sure that energy was produced by the mitochondria in human cells. That’s what medical science teaches us. It works like this: you ate food, fed the cells nutrients, they worked and the mitochondria released electrical energy, which pushed the arms/feet.
It all seems to be logical. But then the question arises: why did my neighbor just come back from lunch and already complain that she has no energy to work?
This is what mitochondria look like.
I know quite a few people who eat well, have a simple office job, but are too lazy to take care of themselves, don’t want to leave the house, have no energy to clean the apartment, even if there are masses of dust in the corners. What is it? Laziness? Or a real lack of energy?
My opinion is that laziness is the first sign of a low charge of our internal battery. An energetic person is never lazy! He will always find something to do.
So does energy fill us up differently than cats or dogs or other living creatures? If they eat, they run, and if they don’t eat, they can hardly drag their feet. Yes, exactly!
The fact is that with humans, this principle does NOT WORK, because humans are spiritual beings, not animals (unless, of course, if they work not only for food). The energy that primarily drives us is of a more subtle, spiritual nature, though at some point it does change into a biological form.
This may seem obvious to someone, but I personally spent 5 years figuring it out. As a result, I found out that electrical energy (coming from mitochondria) is an important part of our human energy system, and it is inherent in us from animal origin. But this is only part of the iceberg. And there is a second component: the main driving force behind humans are mental constructs (thoughts), feelings and emotions.
This is why the “eat and go to work” principle does not motivate us as animals do. We need something else, something more valuable. Animals don’t need to think about it, because they have no thoughts, no feelings in our human understanding, only emotions in their infancy.
Energy from food and Spiritual energy. What is the difference?
Thoughts, feelings and emotions (the spiritual energy) supply us with the most important part of our living energy. And unlike physical (electrical) energy is infinite, it can never run out.
But if spiritual energy is limitless, then why do we feel tired?
I think everyone is familiar with the situation: you are vacationing in a warm country by the sea and decided to go on an excursion. The heat is terrible, something goes wrong, the air conditioning in the bus can not cope, plus a lot of boring stops at all kinds of stores with tourist junk at inflated prices. You’re hungry and already cursing your desire to go to the mountain you were promised with some sort of attraction. All you dream about now is getting back to the beach by the hotel.
And so you finally arrive to the destnation. With the last of your strength you climb the stairs of a thousand steps to the top of the mountain, washed from the heat, and… in front of you suddenly opens a strikingly beautiful view of the boundless sea, green mountains and the blue dome of the sky. It takes your breath away with delight… you start squealing with delight, taking pictures on every rock in the place, and so on and so forth. Where is the fatigue? Where is the exhausted state of “I’m going to die”? Where did you get all of a sudden this new energy, even though you haven’t eaten any food and haven’t even had time to rest/sleep?
It’s simple: touching everything beautiful and interesting fills you with joy, and joy is a resource emotion that immediately sends a powerful charge of energy into the body. That is, energy is always present in our bodies, but it can be released only through consciousness.
In my example, the consciousness was given a reason to rejoice in the beauty of nature. This is a spiritual joy, it is not available to an animal, no animal can replenish its energy just by seeing a beautiful landscape, but humans have this ability. But in our hypothetical trip, this joy happened to us by accident; we did not evoke it in ourselves intentionally.
Isn’t that why we love to travel so much, that in spite of the fatigue on the way we are recharged with the energy of the beauty of nature.
Imagine what would happen if we understood how to manage spiritual energy? What if we knew how to connect to that inner source of energy at any moment? In that case, we could draw unlimited amounts of energy from it consciously, when we needed it and as much as we needed it.
However, it is precisely with the solution of this problem that most people encounter problems. Once they receive a charge of spiritual energy, they simply do not know how to use it. Although it is possible to gain conscious access to this infinite reservoir through thought – the main thing is to know how to think correctly.
Permanent fatigue. What and who “eats” our Energy?
So, as we have understood: our energy and our thinking are closely connected. We live and continuously think, communicate with each other, and feel, and this process of thinking and feeling is the area of our consciousness.
At the same time, most people are used to thinking and feeling in patterns: both about themselves and about the world around them. In the inner space these are dialogues with ourselves, our thoughts about ourselves, the way we relate to ourselves, all of this carries Energy. And this is where we begin to lose it. The Energy of life drains from our inner world every time we indulge in destructive thoughts and/or behaviors that are destructive to ourselves.
Examples of these destructive attitudes are victim/blame/hubris/aggression/hatred/guilt and many psychological states that you all know about. Any inner struggle drains our energy: when we divide people into our own and strangers (and begin to hate strangers and protect our own), into bad and good (and begin to judge the bad, proving to ourselves that “I am good”, “I am not like him, he is definitely bad”), etc.
It is very common now on the Web to write about toxic people and toxic relationships. That’s right, because there are plenty of them around. But for some reason bloggers don’t start the conversation with the most important thing: “How not to become an angry cormorant and toxic person yourself”.
The fact is that no one (not even the wildest toxic person) will do as much damage to us as we do to ourselves. Yes, that’s right, we eat ourselves, depleting first our mood, then our moral and physical strength, depriving ourselves of access to that very boundless source of strength and Energy (which is ready to hammer into us at any moment, but we, for some reason, are terribly afraid to let it happen).
- How often do you feel resentment against others?
- How often do you feel angry to someone?
- How often are you jealous of others?
- How often do you think life is unfair to you?
Unpleasant questions, aren’t they? But let the verdict be harsh but fair:
If you often feel these things, it means that you are a main “eater” of your own energy.
If you don’t want to be in a state of permanent fatigue don’t look for negativity, detach yourself from it, don’t let negative emotions take over your mind. Do you remember Darth Vader and Anakin Skywalker? What separated the dark personality from the light personality? And who was happier in the end?
Don’t get worked up, it’s no use. Yes, there will always be problems and stress in our lives, but it’s important to respond to them correctly and not “make a big deal out” of it.
Remember: the flood of negative thoughts is ALWAYS much worse than the reason that triggered it.
It is this chewing over various negative scenarios of behavior/actions/thoughts (and it doesn’t matter if it’s someone else’s or your own) that is a HUGE distribution of life energy. After a day of replaying some negative situation, you feel like a squeezed lemon, even though you may not be physically straining at all.
Does that sound familiar? I know that it is familiar. I also loved (before, now I get rid of the habit) of winding myself up. Sometimes you wear yourself out so much that you just fall down without energy, even though in fact nothing heavier than a ladle in the hands did not hold.
Any annoyance to anyone is always a loss of Energy. It doesn’t matter if your mother really did something bad, or if the neighbors are really drilling into the walls at 2 a.m. The fact is, if you start burning up with anger about it, you’re trapping yourself in a loss of energy. It is not your mother/neighbor/boss/son/government that is depriving you of sleep, peace, energy, nerves, and health, but your REACTION to their actions.
We can’t avoid what we can’t avoid. Negative situations in our lives were, are and will be, but the trick is to learn to accept them calmly, without unnecessary emotion.
Tips for getting living Energy
How to recharge the life energy? It’s very simple: you need to look for emotions and exclusively positive ones, and then remember and recreate them in your mind. As they are piled on top of each other like a puff pastry, they will create a cumulative effect and make you even more active and productive.
Remember the state when you fell in love? How much energy you had then! Remember your favorite hobby? You lost track of time doing it! Remember your favorite job/project? You worked as hard as if you had a can of Red Bull injected into your blood!
This is not just my theory, it is a proven relationship between our thoughts, our consciousness and our energy. Any sports coach will confirm to you that the success of a future athlete depends 50% on mood and 50% on physical strength. Without the “I can, I will” attitude, without the will to win, without overcoming inner limitations, an athlete will not achieve anything, even if he has the best DNA and physical shape in the world.
A good, positive, loving attitude toward yourself is tantamount to constantly being in the POWER, in the so-called “resource state”, when you have enough Energy for everything. In the resource state it is easy for you to live, easy to create, you have enough power to solve any problems. But how do you enter this state?
Transition to a resource state: 10 ways to replenish energy
- Spend at least 30 minutes in silence. If you know how, do a meditation. Find a comfortable position for you, turn off all gadgets and remove all distractions. It is better not to be engaged in self-analysis, thinking over the problems. Your task is to relax your body and mind;
- Talk to those who inspire you. According to many psychologists: relationships between people are one of the most powerful potential sources of emotional recovery. Only it should be a private meeting or a small company where you can get an emotional charge one-on-one. And your condition will change for the better;
- Do physical exercises. But don’t overdo it: a little 20-30 minute exercise is enough. And despite some fatigue in your muscles, you should know that sports give energy, not take it away. At least, up to a certain limit. You can exercise, do yoga, dance, or go for a run. Choose the kind of activity that suits you;
- Do breathing exercises. It’s simple: breath in – 8 seconds, exhale – 16 seconds. Repeat it 10 times. The deeper we breathe, the lower our level of anxiety. The fact is that the autonomic nervous system has two parts. Sympathetic triggers a stress response, and the parasympathetic is responsible for relaxation. Deep breaths with breath-holding activate the sympathetic nervous system, and a long exhalation calms the parasympathetic nervous system;
- Go for a walk in a new place. Park, street, field – whatever your heart desires. The point is that when you are in the same environment, habitual patterns of thinking and behavior are reproduced. When the environment changes, the brain establishes a new series of neural connections. And this is the perfect moment to do a reload;
- Get enough sleep. Healthy sleep is the basis for good physical and mental health. The body recovers during sleep. But don’t overdo it. In fact, trying to “get enough sleep over the weekend” can be disruptive and detrimental. Wake up and go to sleep at about the same time, even on weekends. And if something went wrong during the night, you can make up for those hours with a daytime nap;
- Take a cool shower. The fact is that when you take a shower, uric acid levels in the body decrease and glutathione levels increase – it is responsible for the restoration of antioxidants and helps to cope with stress;
- Think of the good things. Or remember the happy moments. Nostalgic memories help reduce stress levels. When you remember such positive moments, it’s as if you’re living those same emotions again. And your state of mind changes;
- Do what you like most. The choice is yours. You can make a list of activities that you enjoy. It could be anything from listening to music, painting, singing, or feeding the squirrels in the park;
- Get things in order. Chaos absorbs energy. It is like a Black Hole, quietly sucking out and draining your energy. That is why it is important to put everything in order: your clothes and your house, your e-mail, your computer and your documents.
Today people’s energy is the new currency. It is the level that determines efficiency, mood and well-being in general. It can be wasted quickly, and it’s not so easy to restore it. But it is possible. The main thing is to follow the recommendations of this article.