Have you ever cried for no particular reason? Or, on the contrary, laugh almost hysterically? Do you easily lose your temper? Any conversation at high tones you are ready to transform into a scandal with breaking dishes and any other objects that come your way? You have forgotten how to speak softly? In that case, you are a “happy” owner of high emotionality, which may well lead at least to permanent headaches. And at most – to a nervous breakdown.
Emotions help us express our own feelings, but sometimes their power is so powerful that it begins to spiral out of control. It is women who are most often blamed for such shortcomings. The ability to worry about everything, to be nervous, to “make a big deal out of nothing”, to come to a stable state for a long time. This also includes constant talkativeness, fears, a global insecurity. Of course, men also sometimes suffer from insoluble contradictions, but psychologists say that such states are characteristic of women much more often.
Of course we need emotions. We can’t live without them. Without them, our whole life would become drab and dreary. But everything is good in moderation. So how do we determine this measure? How to determine when the emotion is normal, and when it is too high? And what to do with high emotionality? Read about it below in our new article.
When high emotionality is useful
It would not be quite appropriate to use the specific word “useful”, because, after all, a delicate mental organization, the risk of about to fall into an abyss of uncontrollable sadness or, on the contrary, joy, our health does not bode well. However, agree that if you are a representative of the creative profession, it is almost impossible to live your whole life as such a block of ice.
It is not interesting to look at an actor who cannot express the full force of his character’s feelings. Paintings by artists devoid of emotional coloring are boring and do not attract attention. A screenwriter will never write a brilliant text if he feels nothing at all.
And don’t forget that often emotional people take full advantage of their own shortcomings. Have you ever wondered how easy it is to manipulate people through emotion? Does your husband hate it when you cry? He gets lost, he suffers, he gets cornered? So why not achieve everything he wants through tears?
Another property of emotionality, which can be turned into a plus, though already for society: people with heightened emotionality are often predictable in their actions. Therefore it is easier to communicate with them than with cold-blooded people whose reactions and actions are difficult to predict.
The side effects of higher emotionality
It should be remembered that emotions undermine our psyche, both positive and negative sides. Negative emotions can do concrete harm not only to our nervous system, but also to the body as a whole. The fact is that unpleasant feelings tend to accumulate faster than pleasant ones. That’s the way our body is built. When they overlap each other, they poison your life, and, by the way, make it unbearable in the first place for ourselves, not only for those around us who have to tolerate your permanent hysterics.
Dependence on your emotions implies a person’s lack of responsibility for their actions and words spoken in a fit of anger, and you will have to restore balance and peace, by the way. Impulsiveness prevents you from doing things where rationality and rationality play a big role.
Of course, a measure is needed in everything, the inability to control their emotions, not only depriving you of the ability to objectively assess reality, but also can be the trigger for the development of a bouquet of related problems (depression, apathy, psychosomatic illnesses etc).
So what can we do to ensure that our emotions, our high emotionality, do not harm our mental health?
Learn how to control yourself
Yes, it’s the only sure way to deal with your emotions. Of course, you can try to reassure yourself every time by telling yourself “everything is fine” or “everything will be fine”, swallow packs of sedatives, visualize dreams, smile, radiate “light and love”, or even seek help from a psychotherapist. However, only careful work on yourself can lead to the expected results.
Strange as it may seem, most often the problem of excessive emotionality is ordinary insecurity. Excessive display of emotions can be the result of low self-esteem, a desire to attract attention to oneself at least through laughter, crying, loud talking…
That’s why you should start working on yourself by increasing your self-confidence. Praise yourself daily for all those little things that you do, and you will see how quickly your self-esteem will begin to rise. Develop self-esteem and humor – laugh at yourself, your shortcomings and how silly and funny you look from the outside when you go out of yourself.
It is important to understand for yourself how an emotional breakdown manifests itself exactly in you. One person bursts into aggression, another suddenly begins to cry, a third loses the power of speech. Depending on this, you need to build your “line of defense” to protect yourself and those around you.
So whenever you feel your emotions starting to spiral out of control, try to take care that the consequences of an emotional outburst do not affect your career, ruin your public speaking, ruin personal relationships, or put you to shame or embarrassment in front of witnesses of your weakness.
It is also necessary to master the simplest, but at the same time very effective breathing technique, which helps to quickly return to a state of spiritual balance:
- If you feel that emotions are overwhelming you, stop, take the most comfortable position for you;
- Take a deep breath and slowly let the air out again;
- When your breathing comes back to normal, analyze what it was that took you out of your usual state;
- Think about it, is it worth your attention? You will soon be surprised at how quickly everything has fallen into place, and how your gratuitous anger or grief has disappeared.
Constant self-control, confidence and clear thoughts are the key to ensuring that emotions do not overwhelm you unexpectedly and your emotionality will be fine.